ADRENALINE & TRIGGERS PART THREE
OVER THE LAST FEW POSTS, WE’VE DISCUSSED ADRENALINE AND TRIGGERS, AND THE IDEA OF HAVING A HELPER TO WALK WITH YOU THROUGH DISCOVERING THE TRIGGERS IN YOUR LIFE.IF YOU HAVEN’T READ THOSE POSTS, BE SURE TO DO SO BEFORE READING THIS ONE.
Today we’re going to talk cover the idea of evaluating the results of the trigger charts and use that information to grow.
Evaluations are important tools when it comes to maintaining our continuous onward movement towards eliminating the harmful stresses of the triggers in our lives.
It’s easier to take your trigger chart and “check the box” to keep track of the triggers and how you respond to them. Can I suggest that you take the extra time to stand back and look at the patterns, see where you are experiencing the most negative reactions? If you face the intensity of the triggers, that proves a real commitment to healing and growing in the Lord. Until you can see clearly the patterns of triggers and unhealthy responses, you won’t make the progress you want to make.
Taking the time to honestly evaluate is where you will prove your integrity to yourself and to your helper and to other people in your life. It’s easy to lie to yourself, minimize your toxic reactions, and proceed to cheat, lie, and mislead on an evaluation. In this case, the only one you will be cheating, lying to, and misleading will be yourself. Therefore, purpose to prove yourself to be a person of integrity. Be painfully honest. This same advice goes to your helper as well, whoever she may be.
BELOW ARE THE STEPS TO HONESTLY EVALUATING YOUR TRIGGERS AND RESPONSES:
STEP ONE: List your known triggers and responses to them.
STEP TWO: List your most repeated triggers and responses and write how often they occur daily, weekly, and monthly.
STEP THREE: List your most destructive (mental and/or physical) responses and write how often they occur daily, weekly, or monthly.
STEP FOUR: List, as accurately as possible, how many times your thoughts wander back to the trauma or abuse on a daily or weekly or monthly basis, whichever is applicable.
STEP FIVE: Examine the results of this evaluation on a weekly basis to begin with. It would be very helpful to share the results with your helper.
STEP SIX: Keep track of your progress and/or regression from each evaluation.
TELL THE TRUTH, BUT BE CAREFUL AS WELL. TAKE PROPER PRECAUTIONS IF THE INFORMATION ON YOUR EVALUATION AND OTHER CHARTS COULD BE DAMAGING TO YOU IF THEY FELL IN THE WRONG HANDS.
That is why it is vital that you can trust the person you chose to be your helper. If you are married, hopefully your spouse would be able to serve as you helper.
So we’ve covered how we’re affected physically. Next time we’ll discuss how stress and trauma affects our will.